We all have good and bad days, and for sure, we want to be loved on both!
We all recognize that we have a wide range of emotions. Some we are proud of… some not so much, but unconditional love is still what we hunger for.
Yet how do we give this ultimate gift without feeling personally compromised, without feeling a sense of personal loss?
- Understand that there are only two emotions… love and the absence of love which is fear.
Fear has many forms: anger, insult, resentment, jealousy, unkindness, bitterness, harsh tones, impatient words, nasty looks, dismissive remarks.
“If you can’t take me at my worst…
then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best!”
- Know that love does not attack these fear-filled emotions.
Love does not attack anger, insult, resentment, jealousy, unkindness, bitterness, harsh tones, impatient words, nasty looks, dismissive remarks.
The presence of love is what causes these feelings to disappear, just as light makes darkness impossible. The power of love brings fear to its knees.
- Recognize that the attraction of love to love is irresistible.
Love entices more love, like a flame draws in the moth. Love wants to unite all things with itself.
Realize, if you make your partner the enemy, then an enemy will respond, and a battle will be your result… a battle no one can win.
But how can you be the presence of love in your relationship… in the heat of an upset?
How can you speak in support of yourself without making the one you love the enemy?
How can you protect your dignity, self-respect, authenticity?
How can you inspire rather than require good behavior?
Find these answers in Part 2, “Quick Fix to Prevent an Angry Argument”.
This next post offers an easy (palatable and effective) way to give love when love is needed most… and maintain dignity!